Wednesday, 31 October 2018

31 things on my 31st Birthday!

birthday lessons in your thirties

I’ve been doing these birthday lessons posts for years now on the blog, and usually it always goes up on or close to, my actual birthday. This one, not so much! For some reason, I’ve found this one much harder to put together this week, so it’s two weeks late, but better late than never that’s for sure. I feel like I’ve learnt a lot this past year, and now that I’m firmly in my 30’s *shudder* I feel like I’m hitting some pivotal moments of self discovery - but getting all that down has never been so difficult! So, instead of putting it off with even more rambling, let’s just jump straight on into it, here’s 31 things I’ve learnt on my 31st birthday!

  1. Learn how to save money, even if it’s a couple of quid a month!
  2. Get up early. An extra hour out of bed is an extra hour of living life.
  3. It’s great to talk about the past, to learn from it, but don’t keep re-living it!
  4. Read. Find an author, a genre, a magazine you like and make time to read
  5. Meditate. Your mind, body and soul will thank you.
  6. Stretch daily. It wakes you up, it blows out the cobwebs and it’s healing
  7. Stop trying to understand why some people do the things they do. You might not like it, or agree with it, but you can’t change it, so don’t get bogged down by their actions
  8. Stop apologising when you’ve done nothing wrong. 
  9. If you’ve got a problem with someone, talk it out, like adults. You might not like what they have to say, hell they might not like what you say either, but it’s better to have the conversation than just wonder about it. 
  10. Pick a personal mantra and carry it with you like a magical spell.
  11. Don’t feel pressure into doing things because it’s what everyone else is doing - at this age, I’m talking houses, marriage and babies - go down these roads if and when you’re ready.
  12. Like what you like, it doesn’t matter if it isn’t anyone else’s cup of tea, it’s yours!
  13. Turns out turning 30 isn’t all that bad at all!
  14. Things don’t always go to plan, but you are where you are for a reason!
  15. Just because you haven’t put it on social media doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.
  16. Keep some things to yourself, not everything in life is a Facebook status.
  17. Live a life that is true to your values and meets your needs. 
  18. Eat less meat. 
  19. Never stop learning. Take a course, learn a language, practice a skill, education doesn’t finish at the school gates.
  20. Live below your means.
  21. There’s a lot to be said for being a little more minimalist. 
  22. Be in the moment, wholeheartedly, so this might mean leaving your phone in your bag!
  23. Write. Even if nobody ever reads it, it’s so cathartic to get any and all thoughts out of your head and down onto paper. 
  24. The only stupid question is the one you don’t ask. 
  25. Take less pictures of your pumpkin spiced latte, and more of those who you’re drinking it with. 
  26. Make time for your dreams. I love to book a day off work every now and then and spend it working towards some of my bigger goals.
  27. Stop trying to impress others by doing things that go against your own beliefs and nature. 
  28. The conversations your too scared to have, are probably the ones you need to have.
  29. You are not better than anyone else, you are you and they are they. No top trumps here!
  30. Learn to hold a conversation. Let people have their turn to be heard.
  31. Change should be embraced, not feared.

I feel like the older I get, the more set in my ways, thoughts and feelings I get. The more passionate I get about the things I love and the less time I have for people and things that don’t spark joy in my life. Once upon a time that would have frightened me, but now I truly see just how freeing being sure of yourself can be!

What’s one thing you’ve learnt about yourself in the last year?

Until next time, 

Header Image: @snight


  1. I love your post and I agree with everything you said. 16 is so true. Not everything must be on Facebook/social media. xx

    1. I think 16 is so important and something people need to learn sooner rather than later!

      Sarah :)

  2. I love 15 but I'm not sure I believe it. haha! I've seen you do loads of these posts which makes me wonder how long I've been reading your blog!

    Corinne x

    1. You've been here since the beginning that's for sure! :D

      Sarah :)

  3. I love these, except the get up early one. No matter how hard I try, I am not a get up early sort of person!! xx

    Holly |

    1. Hahaha it really isn't for everyone! I wish I was more of a night owl sometimes but I'm worse than Cinderella, I can't even make it to midnight!

      Sarah :)