Friday, 27 October 2017

Big Magic - Elizabeth Gilbert

When something really hits home, sparks joy and ignites your creativity, well, it would be just downright wrong to not shout about it! So here I am, shouting about Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. Yes, I’ve arrived unfashionably late to this party but hey, not all the ice has melted and it’s better late than never, so let’s get this shindig started!

From start to finish, Big Magic was one of those books that just had me thinking and itching to write. Gilbert describes her passion to write as a vocation, that no matter how successful or unsuccessful she might be, she would never stop loving writing. She didn’t write to pay the bills, or for views and likes, she wrote because she had no choice. She was so drawn to the act of storytelling that she couldn’t stop, even if she wanted to. 

So here’s a few lessons reading Big Magic has taught me;

Who do you write for? For me, I’ve never not been able to write. From stories to journal entries, reviews and blog posts, I cannot stop myself putting words down on a page. Why do I do this? Honestly, like Gilbert, I just bloody love it. There’s something about seeing those thoughts and ideas in your head down on the page that just makes me happy. I want to share those thoughts, I want to make a brew and have a chat about them, I want to dissect them, pull the lines apart and delve into the story. I write for me

Not every idea is going to stay your idea. Anyone who writes anything, especially when it comes to blogging, will have an idea. And it might be the best, most original idea you’ve ever thought of and your fingers fly across the keyboard. You can’t wait to hit publish on that post. But you get distracted, maybe the kettle boils or a drama kicks off on Twitter. You don’t finish the post, it slowly moves to the bottom of your drafts page and you forget about it for a while. A few weeks go by and suddenly that super amazing idea you had is trending on the Bloglovin’ homepage - only it’s not your blog that it’s been published on. Ideas are fleeting little sprites, they stop by for a visit, maybe let you nurture them for a while but if you don’t see them through to the end they go off and make a home in someone else's inspiration. Not everyone will treat that idea the same, you are always allowed to put your own spin on it, but don’t ever think that you have 100% hold over it. 

Be entitled. You are 110% entitled to be here, on this stage. You are entitled to explore your creativity, to explore it openly and honestly. You have to believe this, you have to believe you are good enough to at least try. Being a creative person isn’t a separate identity, it is your identity, you are a writer, you are a blogger, you’re whatever you damn well please to be.

Stop complaining. Creating isn’t always easy, you’ll find all rhyme and reason about the struggle of being a creator just one Google away. You chose to create, nobody forced you into it, so complaining about something you freely chose to do is just downright annoying - and boring! Creating isn’t easy, nothing special or worthwhile ever is, and if it was easy, you’d be complaining that everyone was doing it. I love how Gilbert gives inspiration a physical form, how every time you complain about your creativity or lack there of, inspiration is just standing there pointing to itself saying, ‘And what am I?’. You’re complaining about a lack of something that is always with you, because it’s a part of who you are. So next time you feel the blank page looming, don’t start ranting at bus stops and cursing the skies, how about you tell your inspiration that you appreciate it, you love your creative vocation and see what little tid bit of a spark it lights up for you. 

And if your lack of success is killing you…simply stop. If forcing yourself to churn out half assed blog posts and slaving away over editing photos you don’t like, then stop. You don’t owe it to anyone and you certainly owe it to yourself to do something you love with your life. If you have truly lost your love for creating, move on to something else you do love. Take up whittling, knitting, travel, learn a foreign language. Our time on this planet is pretty finite, so why waste it doing something you really really don’t enjoy? How does that make sense? There is no shame in simply downing tools for one hobby and picking up tools for another. And you never know, with all these new hobbies and experiences you’re now having, you might fancy writing about them again some day. 

I can’t praise this book enough. I’ve come away with so much valuable information and had some pretty concrete ideas shattered and built again with extra sparkle. Whether your a blogger, a YouTuber, a crafter or creator of any kind, this book is a must read. There’s always room for a little more inspiration!

What’s the best piece of creative advice you’ve been given?

Until next time, 

Wednesday, 25 October 2017

21 MUST take photos in Disneyland Paris

disneyland paris photo challenge

I love a good photo challenge, and what could be better than a Disney related one? With my Disneyland Paris trip just one week away, I figured I’d set up a little photo taking bucket list (and hey, I’ll get another post out of this one once I get back and share my snaps!). If you’ve got a DLP trip coming up soon, why not take the challenge yourself?

21 MUST take photos in Disneyland Paris
  1. My reaction when I first see the castle
  2. A shot outside my hotel room door
  3. Meeting Mickey Mouse
  4. Posing with a Princess
  5. Mickey shaped snacks
  6. Main Street USA at night
  7. Selfie in my mouse ears
  8. Lost in Alice’s Curious Labyrinth
  9. Behind the wheel on Autopia
  10. Posing in the Discovery Arcade
  11. My view from Dumbo
  12. Discovering Maleficents lair
  13. The name of my trusty steed on Lancelots Carousel
  14. Spinning on the Tea Cups
  15. My view from the Orbitron
  16. Posing at the castle in the day time
  17. Posing at the castle in the night time
  18. My view from the top of PanoraMagic
  19. Cheers with a cocktail (or 3)
  20. Trying on as many character hats/ears as you can find
  21. Disneybound OOTD
What are your must take photos when in Disneyland Paris?

Until next time, 

Monday, 23 October 2017

Afternoon Tea - Koukash - Liverpool

afternoon tea koukash liverpool review

After a long, luxurious morning at the Eforea spa, what better way to finish off my top to toe pampering day than with a little afternoon tea? You can have this added on to any of their spa packages, and why wouldn’t you? Finger sandwiches, dainty cakes, prosecco and unlimited hot tea? Consider me signed up!

Being a Monday afternoon, I pretty much had the entirety of the Koukash restaurant to myself. So, here’s a little confession, coffee shop stops aside, I’ve never actually eaten out alone before. I was a little nervous, would I look weird? Alone? Sad? Would the waiter ask to wait until my company arrives for the food to be brought out? I’ve never taken myself out on a date, I had no idea how this would work!

Insert Paul, my server for the afternoon who was, hands down, straight out of Downton Abbey and an absolute joy. He had me laughing, smiling, insisted I started with prosecco and never let the tea pot run dry. Unfortunatly, he wasn’t allowed to take a pew so I had to prepare to enjoy my own company *shudder*.

afternoon tea koukash liverpool review

Prosecco sipping, the afternoon tea for one was brought out. Three tiers of treats just waiting to be devoured. As afternoon teas go, Koukash’s airs on the more traditional side, starting with 4 finger sandwiches; cheese and pickle, egg and cress, ham and mustard and a salmon and cream cheese. Not the biggest cheese and pickle fan, it wasn’t all that bad! The ham and salmon were undoubtedly my favourites, super tasty and light!

afternoon tea koukash liverpool review

Next tier up and we’re onto the cakes. I had three to choose from; red velvet, batten-burg and what I think was a salted caramel - one of these day’s I’ll remember to ask before I dig in! Each one was a delicate delight. I half wish they were a few mouthfuls bigger, but who can resist the cuteness of a dainty cake? The one I think was salted caramel was the biggest winner, though the red velvet came a close second. The frosting was a little too sweet but who am I to turn my nose up at cake?

afternoon tea koukash liverpool review

Last, but certainly not least, the final tier and the icing on the cake for my day at the Doubletree, a fresh baked scone with clotted cream and jam. Is it just me or is this always the best part of an afternoon tea? I do love me a good scone, cream then jam of course! Filled with fruit and mahoosive, it went down very well with another cup of english breakfast tea. 

Comfy-cosy surroundings, my own company turning out to not be all that bad, and freshly baked cakes and scones, I mean really, what do I have to do to make every Monday this divine? 

afternoon tea koukash liverpool review

What’s your favourite part of afternoon tea?

Until next time, 

Friday, 20 October 2017

Reading round-up #5

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I am flying through the pages this year! I’ve really made a point of making time for reading, either by turning off the laptop and/or TV earlier, or picking up my book as tea cooks. It really goes to show that just the odd page here and there soon adds up to fully read books! Let’s have a nosy at my latest reads!

Stardust - Neil Gaiman
Having re-watched the film recently, when I noticed this book on the shelf in the library it felt a little like fate to pick it up and see how the page translated on screen. I was actually really surprised how close the film and book are, that doesn’t happen all that often! The book was as magical as I expected, a fairy tale for adults that they can tell their children. Gaiman has a brilliant ability to drive a story, everything moves at the perfect pace and he ties up all the loose ends and story arcs in the end, a happily ever after with a little less Disney-esq cheese on top.

Something wicked this way comes - Ray Bradbury
I’ve been wanting to pick up some Bradbury for a while now but my local library shelves are less than inspiring when it comes to the sci-fi greats. This was the only Bradbury on the shelf at the time. Not a bad read, a little confusing to follow at times, but a really great run up to Halloween read none the less. 

Daring Greatly - Brenee Brown
Hands down one of the most life changing, thought provoking books I’ve read this year! I actually gave it a whole post here, where you can read exactly why Daring Greatly has given me so much to think about. 

Pebble in the Sky - Issac Asimov
Wanting to continue to expand my exploration into sci-fi, how could I ignore one of the greats themselves? I really want to read his Foundation series but our library doesn’t seem to have the first one! In searching for it, I found this and the premise really intrigued me. A 63 year old man is transported hundreds of year in the future, where Earth has discovered it’s not alone in the universe, in-fact it’s seen as very small and insignificant by the rest of the galaxy. Earth isn’t all that happy about being deemed the lowest level on the evolutionary ladder, oh and once you hit 60, you’re euthanised so that the youngsters can have your share of food and space on an ever crowded planet. There’s also brain experimentation and mind control powers, incase it wasn’t sci-fi enough for you!

Big Magic - Elizabeth Gilbert
If a book could make you fall in love with writing, Big Magic is it. Not only did it give me the writing bug back, but it really taught me what it is that I love about writing so much. Writing as a vocation, not a way to pay the bills, writing for enjoyment and play, not because I have to get a post out. The same theories can be applied for whatever creative outlet you choose. Watch this space because I have a much more in-depth look at what big lessons Big Magic taught me coming soon!

Have you read a book recently that’s really stuck with you long after the last full stop?

Until next time, 

Wednesday, 18 October 2017

30 things I've learnt on my 30th Birthday!

30 lessons on your 30th birthday

I’ve been doing these little birthday reflections for a few years now and what I love is how each time, the list seems to change and evolve. Just when you think you’ve learnt all there is left to learn, life surprises you and in just 12 months so much can change - sometimes it’s takes for writing it down to actually realise that.

30 is a big one. If they sell glassware and photo frames with an age on, you know it’s a milestone worth taking note of. If you’d have asked me 10 years ago where I see my 30 year old self, the answer would be nothing like how my life looks right now. For a while, I don’t think I was ok with this. I thought I would have ticked house buying, babies and a dream job off the list. But as you get older, you really do realise that everything happens when it’s supposed to happen and life isn’t one big tick box exercise. Do I regret not having any of those things yet? Hell no! I am beyond in love with my life right now and everything, everyone, it’s filled with. I wouldn’t change it for the world!

Without dragging this intro out any further, let’s dive into 30 things I’ve learnt on my 30th birthday!

  1. Find the magic in the everyday
  2. Spend time outside
  3. Sometimes you just have to show up and take part - it's not about winning
  4. Make time for what you love
  5. It’s ok for a job to be just a job
  6. You’re never too old to play
  7. Set an intention for the day/week/month/year 
  8. Spend time with yourself
  9. Explore where you live like a tourist
  10. Take pictures of the people, not the things
  11. Care less about what others think of you
  12. Life’s not all about followers and likes
  13. Take regular breaks from social media
  14. Exercise should be fun, not a chore
  15. Life is not about ticking all the boxes
  16. Experiment in the kitchen
  17. Go with your gut
  18. Perfectionism is a myth
  19. Make time for the people you love
  20. It’s ok to say no
  21. Don’t believe everything you read/see/watch/hear online
  22. You’re never too old to learn something new
  23. Challenge yourself
  24. Put yourself out there
  25. Don’t let anyone tell you how to spend your money/time
  26. Don’t feel guilty for spending your money/time on yourself
  27. Be inspired by others but don’t copy them
  28. Listen
  29. Start your own traditions
  30. Age is just a number

In my twenties I had zero idea about who I was or what I wanted , but now, as I leap into my thirties, well, I’m bloody excited! I know myself, I know what I want, I know what I love and what I don’t love so much, and I’m finally becoming ok with all of the little things I’ve never been that ok about. 

I’ve got a feeling that my thirties are going to be epic.

How do you feel about your next big birthday?

Until next time, 

Monday, 16 October 2017

*Eforea Spa - Liverpool

eforea spa liverpool review

With the hustle and bustle that comes with city centre living, it’s not often the words luxury and spa come to mind. For a spa day, I always think I have to go out into the sticks, an open green space with rolling hills and zero street lights. Can you really find that seclusion and luxury at a city centre spa? 

Eforea Spa, Liverpool, is connected to the Doubletree Hilton Hotel. A luxurious setting in the heart of the city. The moment you step off the street and onto the red carpeted entrance, you know you’re heading into something special. The sounds of the street fall away and already, you’re leaving the chaos of the city behind. 

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I checked in at the Spa reception, then headed into a side room to grab a hot drink in a oh-so-fancy china mug. With a warming fire on one wall, and super comfy couches and chairs filling the room, I was already beginning to relax. Janet, from the front desk, came in with my complimentary robe, towel and spa slippers, and as soon as I’d finished my brew, she took me down into the spa. 

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After a quick tour, and an even quicker change, I got myself in that pool so fast you’d have thought my backside was on fire. The pool is located just under street level but you can’t hear a thing except for the water and the soft background music.

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Every eforea spa package comes with 2 hours use of the thermal suite before your treatments. After a few long, lazy laps in the pool I started with the tranquility pool - a large hot tub with an inbuilt bed filled with muscle pummelling jets.

eforea spa liverpool review

Another few laps in the pool, another detoxifying experience to be had. Between the sauna and the steam room, the sauna was my favourite. I felt every inch of me heat up and relax. Having the whole place to myself, I did a little meditation practice too. The steam room was lovely, but I always find it harder to breathe and less comfortable than a sauna!

eforea spa liverpool review

My 2 hours flew by and I headed to the Transition Room, a pre-treatment waiting area that is like stepping into the warmest of hugs. The lights are dimmed, and the chairs are big, lose yourself between the cushions jobs.

The treatment rooms are similar to the Transition Room in that it’s dimmed and cosy, all dark furnitures and soothing scents.I had a quick chat about my treatments with Maria, my therapist before she popped out to let me get comfortable. 

eforea spa liverpool review

First up, the Elemis deeper than hot stone massage. Baseline stones bathed in Frangipani oils are worked deep into the muscles, relieving tension. I had terribly tight shoulders and this worked a treat. My back felt like it had been switched out and replaced with a whole new spine!

eforea spa liverpool review

After my massage, I had the eforea Signature Essence facial, having spoken about my current skin woes of dry patches and oily outbreaks, the facial was completely tailored to tackle these troublesome areas using all Elemis products. This was one of the most intense and nourishing facials I have ever had. Part of it included a mask and, during the time it took to set, Maria gave me a wonderful head massage, there wasn’t a moment throughout the entire 55 minutes when a part of me wasn’t being worked on!

Floating high up on Cloud 9, I left my treatment room and headed back into the Transition Room to really squeeze every last drop of relaxation out of my day. No book, no phone, just me and my thoughts. It was the perfect escape from the daily grind and a fabulous 3+ hours off grid. 

Can you get that escapist luxury spa experience in the middle of a bustling city? It’s a resounding yes from me. Eforea offers something for everyone, so pick your pleasure and level up your me time

Huge thankyou to Eforea for inviting me to spend the day with them, I had the best pre-30th Birthday pamper imaginable! Stay tuned, my day didn't end there - there's more treats to come!

How do you like your spa days? 

Until next time, 

*This spa day was kindly gifted to me by eforea. All thoughts and opinions are my own. For more information see my disclaimer policy.

Monday, 9 October 2017

30 things I've done before turning 30!

30 things done before turning 30

Forever and a day ago, I wanted to make one of those 30 things to do before you turn 30 lists, and I think I did but I’ll be damned if I have any idea where that’s gone. I’m in the business of list making and box ticking but my filing needs some work. So, like we always do when we want some ideas, or it’s a C4 extended ad break, I took to the internet. I found a plethora of things to do/see/eat/read/learn/tick off before you’re 30 lists, and from them, I decided to make a list of things I have actually done before turning 30!

  1. Bagged myself a Bachelors degree
  2. And a Masters degree
  3. Moved into my own place
  4. Met the love of my life
  5. Got engaged
  6. Surrounded myself with a few awesome people
  7. Started a hobby (blogging!) and stuck to it!
  8. Went camping (not glamping! I actually pitched a tent!)
  9. Sorted out my savings - and become pretty savvy at it too
  10. Absailed
  11. Travelled - I might not have many stamps in my passport but I have left the UK a fair few times!
  12. Treated myself to something really expensive - several times over
  13. Learned how to cook - I’m no Mary Berry but my go-to meals don’t tend to come out of frozen cardboard boxes anymore!
  14. Looked into my family tree - I didn’t get all that far but it was pretty interesting!
  15. Seen many musicals and stage shows
  16. Lived out my Disney Princess dreams in Walt Disney World
  17. Gotten (almost) over my fear of clowns!
  18. Completed a 30 day challenge - no meat for a month!
  19. Really started to look after myself; mind, body and soul.
  20. Discovered (but not yet mastered) meditation
  21. Spent a day at the spa
  22. Took myself on a date
  23. Challenged myself to step outside of my comfort zone
  24. Lived in the city 
  25. Leant the basics of another language
  26. Read a lot of books
  27. Watched many classic films
  28. Figured out my own personal style - hello skater dresses and boots you beautiful things you.
  29. Kept journals
  30. Become happy in my own skin!

I’ll be honest, part of me semi-dreaded putting this list together when I came up with the idea, I didn't think it would sound interesting or exciting - and maybe it doesn’t to you. But it’s all about me and if the me of today could sit down with the me of 10 years ago and tell her all of these wonderful things that would happen, she would be a much happier, confident 20 year old. 

We live, we learn. I’ve come so far in life but 30 isn’t going to be an over the hill moment for me, it’s going to be the start of a brand new chapter; thirty and flirty and thriving!

Have you got a big birthday coming up? 

Until next time, 

Wednesday, 4 October 2017

Disneyland Paris 2017 - The countdown begins...

disneyland paris countdown

If you’ve been around long enough, you’ll know Walt Disney World, Florida, is my second home but with the finance belt tightening and adulting becoming a bit of a priority, those trips are suddenly looking very few and far between. But I refuse to give up on the magic, and having had a close to 15 year gap since my last Disneyland Paris trip, I figured it’s as close to the magic as I might get for a while. With my favourite girls and a deal we couldn’t say no to we got ready to pack our ears and head off for 4 whole days of enchantment and pixie dust. (27 days to go...but who's counting?).

So of course, I have to blog-down to the trip! So how about we start with things I am MOST excited for at Disneyland Paris

Newport Bay Hotel - Of course, we’re staying on property, I don’t think I could do any Disney park any other way! It was a coin toss between Newport Bay and Hotel New York but having never stayed at Newport Bay, I didn’t need to be asked twice to try somewhere new! Situated across the lake near the Disney Village and around 15 minutes away from the park gates, Newport Bay looks friggin gorgeous! Themed around a 1920’s New England mansion, just you wait for all the Cape Cod-esq pictures I’m going to take. Also, as a Disney hotel guest, we’ll get up to two extra magic hours in the parks before the regular guests get in! Hurrah!

Food, glorious food - You know me and my Mickey shaped treats! I can’t wait to see what dining delights Paris has to offer. Most of what I remember about my last trip to DLP was eating in McDonalds, getting food poisoning from at a dinner show and a trip to Planet Hollywood, where after eating chicken nuggets for almost a week, I ordered more chicken nuggets. There are so many places to eat in and out of the parks, from a Ratatouille themed restaurant that shrinks you down to size, to a grab and go at Five Guys. Not to mention all those pastries, macarons, and Hakuna Matata fries! Somebody pass me my stretchy pants!

Happy 25th Birthday - not to me, unfortunately. DLP turned 25 this year and of course, Disney lets no milestone go unnoticed! They’ve decked the parks and characters out in beautiful blue and silver decorations, with a few limited edition meet and greets and obligatory limited edition merchandise to go right along with the celebrations. I can’t confirm it online anywhere but I’m hoping the decor is still up when we arrive!

disneyland paris halloween countdown

Happy Haunting - Even though we arrive just after Halloween, all the decorations are usually still up, giddy ghouls and Mickey pumpkins adorn the Disney Village and parks, as well as the characters donning their spookiest halloween attire! Halloween is one of my favourite times in a Disney park, they just go all out and it’s so cute! We miss the official Halloween Party but there is a special Halloween event going on in the Disney Village which I will most defiantly be donning my witchy earrings for and checking out!

Shopping - With Christmas just around the corner, a park exclusive Pandora line being released and an outlet mall and shopping centre within walking distance, you can bet your bottom euro that I will be doing some serious shopping. Did I mention there’s a Sephora too? Suffice to say, there might be a haul or three on the blog once I get home!

Magic - Because that’s what it’s all about. There’s something about being in a Disney park that for me, is sheer magic. It’s been such a long time since I last visited DLP and there have been so many changes, from rides to restaurants, there’s going to be so much to see and do! I don’t plan on stopping much at all! It’s no Walt Disney World that’s for sure, but it’s still a slice of the magic and I will take that every chance I get!

Have you ever been to Disneyland Paris? Any trips for a long time no tripper?

Until next time,

Monday, 2 October 2017

Brene Brown - Daring Greatly

daring greatly brene brown review

It’s not often I give a book it’s own review, usually saving them for my reading round ups but sometimes a book comes along that not only blows your mind, but as soon as you hit the last page, you fly back to the start to relive the epiphanies you experienced between the pages. 

I first found Brene Brown when one of her Ted talks popped up on my recommended for you, it was about listening to shame. Shame, to me, has always been that red faced, can’t get your words out, embarrassment and begging the world to open up and swallow you. I’ve always run away from shame, why would I knowingly put myself in a position of vulnerability? Am I really that crazy? 

Turns out, it’s not that crazy. Shame and vulnerability are the keys to wholehearted living. Vulnerability is not cowardice, it’s not weakness. Putting yourself out there, your image, your ideas, your work, your words, showing the world how you live your life, that is not weak, that is pure, unfiltered courage. It’s exposure, it’s uncertain, it’s a nerve wracking daily occurrence, but it is brave

But to understand vulnerability, we have to understand shame. We have to understand why we feel shame, where shame comes from and we have to learn how to become shame-resilliant. We have to learn how to take those instances of shame and vulnerability and turn them into little secret weapons against the world. 

Long intro short, I have too much to say about this book so here’s 5 things it’s taught me (or consider this 5 reasons why you should read it!)

  1. Wholehearted living - Ten points on what to cultivate in life, and what to let go of. Example; cultivating play and rest - letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self worth. I could write my own book on how that one point has changed so much of my thinking already. One more? Cultivating self compassion - letting go of perfectionism. Resonating with you yet?
  2. The ‘never enough problem’ - How many times do you tell yourself you are never good enough or never smart enough? How about never certain/safe/sure enough? These answers come so easily to me when faced with something that takes me out of my comfort zone. And they snowball. I see nerves as scarcity, instantly jumping to the conclusion that something won’t come about because I am not enough in some way, when really, I am. I am more than enough, I’m just nervous, I’m just avoiding vulnerability. 
  3. Only heed the words of those in the arena with you - It’s all too easy to take a negative comment on a blog post or a record low number of likes on an Instagram post to heart. Anonymous trolls crawling the internet ready to jump on you for no reason what so ever, to hurl abuse from the safety of a screen whilst you just stand there and take it. Fact is, you don’t have to take it. One of the best things Brene says in this book is, as a creator, you are not the jackass whisperer. These people will try to shame you for the content you have created, the art you have laboured over, and no matter how many times you try to address or appease them, the more attention you draw to it, the louder the trolls can get. These trolls are not in the arena with you, they are not putting themselves out there, they are not putting their ideas, work or words out into the world, they are not being vulnerable. Therefore they deserve no attention, apology or appeasement. They can quite swiftly jog the hell on
  4. Perfectionism is NOT self-improvement - I’ve never considered myself a perfectionist, but a striving one. In any and all areas for as long as I can remember, I have been caught up in the please, perform, perfect cycle. From school into adulthood, it’s all been about wanting to do things right, to be seen to be doing it all so perfectly and I’ve dressed it up as self improvement and the road to happiness. Perfectionism is self destructive. Perfectionism is a shield that we use to protect ourselves from shame, judgement and blame. It does not exist. Perfectionism is unattainable. And I’m going to learn to be OK with that. I’m going to learn that I do not want and/or need to be perfect. I just need to be me. 
  5. Sometimes you just have to show up - How many times have you talked yourself out of a situation, thinking that you aren’t ready enough so there’s no way in hell you’re going to go along with it - you’ll only embarrass yourself anyway? I know I’ve been guilty of doing JUST that. If I’m not going to win, if there’s a chance I won’t get it right, if there’s a chance I could fail, bollocks to putting myself in that situation. Have I been wrong all this time? Yup. Sometimes you’re not suppose to win, you’re not supposed to be perfect, sometimes you’re just supposed to show up, have a go, enjoy yourself and that really is enough

I could go on and on about this book but then you wouldn’t read it for yourself now would you? It’s not a self help book, it’s not self improvement or personal development, it’s understanding. It’s really understanding how shame and vulnerability can actually empower us. It’s about not letting the myths of shame and vulnerability hold us back, it’s about moving forward and living as full a life as possible.

Do yourself a favour.

Until next time,