Monday, 17 April 2017

Blogging and the Fear Of Missing Out

blogging and the fear of missing out

This post started out as a comment left on the lovely The Sunday Girls blog and I just haven’t been able to shake the thought all day! Blogging. Blogging is one interesting roller coaster ride. The highs are cloud skimming euphoric, let’s do that again, moments. The lows are slow, stomach churning drops that make you wonder why you ever got on in the first place. Every high and low could be separate posts in their own right, but this one, this one is a low one, this one is the F.O.M.O drop, the fear of missing out.

You see the PR packages being ripped open on Instagram Stories, the un-boxings on YouTube. The latest mascara is doing the rounds on your feed, but it never fell through your letter box. No matter how many times we might say we don’t care about the numbers, we do. Of course we do. I don’t know how you can blog and not care at least a little bit about those numbers. These days, those numbers deem what you miss out on. There’s always something. 

Then there’s events. Usually, the ones you didn’t get invited to. You look through the hashtag, you see the selfies, and let’s be honest here, there will be more than one occasion you might stop scrolling and think, how the hell did they get an invite??

Let’s stop a sec. This isn’t a pity post. It’s a reality check. It’s to let you know that you’re not the only one thinking these things. You’re not the only one who didn’t get the package, who didn’t get the invite, who feels like their missing out. It’s one of the inevitable blogging frustrations that we all go through. How do you not feel this way?

There’s a crazy pressure in the blogging world these days to be on the bandwagon, to be whacking out posts on the latest trends, newest releases, filling your social media feeds with a LOOK OVER HERE, I DIDN’T MISS THIS ONE. And are we gratified? Validated? 

Briefly. Yes.

But it’s a fleeting moment, and then there we are, missing out again. 

Thing is, until, if ever, you reach the Zoella level of the game, you will always be missing out. 

Sometimes I think the more you blog, the more this fear creeps in, overshadowing all of the hard work and effort you’ve put into your little corner of the web. It leaves you despondent and disheartened. You forget all of the amazing opportunities you might have already had. 

This is where you need to try and drawer the line. This is where you need to quash that fear. It’s not bloody easy. The fear is an unavoidable plummet. But you’ve got to remember that you chose to get on this roller-coaster, and every time it goes down it has to go back up. Just because you might have missed out on this bandwagon, doesn’t mean you won’t be on the next one to come along.

It’s a crappy feeling. It’s unavoidable. But it’s a blogging right of passage, so at least you know you’re not the only one fearing missing out, and there’s some solace in that. So fire up your group chat, surround yourself with your blogging best friends, have a bitch about who got what and you didn’t and get back behind that keyboard!

How do you deal with blogging F.O.M.O?

Until next time, 


  1. Fair point made but equally a lot of the FOMO comes from comparing yourself to others, a natural human instinct but one we should all try and stop x

  2. I just genuinely try and concentrate on myself and feel inspired that others are doing well xx

  3. It's hard to keep up with everything and I agree, you will miss some bits, but you can only do the best you can! Great post xx

  4. I know it sounds strange but I don't really get blogging f.o.m.o. - I'm not hugely active on social media so I don't see all of the PR parcels/events - I think I'll stay in my bubble! :-) xx


  5. I used to get it a lot, but lately I don't really care. I think blogging has taken a step back in importance for me over the last few months so I'm like whatever! Ha.

    Corinne x

  6. Totally know how you feel! Chin up and just focus on you! xx

  7. Sometimes with blogging you need to keep your head down and not worry about what other bloggers are getting or doing, as you said everyone lower than Zoella level misses out on something!

  8. I loved this post so much. I do just and focus on what I am doing for the majority of the time but totally do feel deflated now and again when I don't get certain opportunities, especially the ones I think I would really enjoy and write a killer post about. Xx

  9. Ah, thanks for your words!!! Yes, I've noticed this as well.... staying strong seems key, there must be a good reason for whatever happens working at your favour.
    x finja |