Here’s a thought. Are bloggers being encouraged to over share on their blogs in order to keep their audiences attention and views? Are bloggers being made to feel like they need to expose their soul, dirty laundry and all in order to appear just like you - the reader?
I watch a lot of YouTube. Mostly it’s daily lifestyle bloggers and travellers. We’re all a little voyeuristic, who isn’t curious about what goes on behind other people's closed doors? A couple of bloggers have told me their most popular posts are the personal ones. And I agree, I love reading about others peoples strifes and struggles. I think there’s a lot to be learned from what others have gone through. But bloggers exposing their souls feels like it’s becoming a must blog about topic you have to tick off the to-do list.
And if you’re not blogging about your troubles? If you’re not calling out someone who might have virtually roughed up a fellow follower on Twitter? Then you’re being branded as a fake, a phony, you’re being forced into a dark little corner of the internet where you must strip down and bare your shame for page views and comments - all to prove you’re a real person. Because real people can't possibly be so happy and positive all of the time. Wait...hang on...this is news to some people? Woah.
Why do bloggers need to keep proving themselves? Are we still naive enough to think that every filtered photo on Instagram is a true representation of someone's life - but then if we think it’s too perfect then clearly they’re lying and we should call them out on it and force them to prove they have bad days too.
Blogging, sharing, picture taking, isn’t this supposed to be fun? Our blogs are supposed to be a safe place, where we can talk and share whatever the hell we want to without trying to appease and appeal to everyone who stops by.
I have found myself on blogs I have not liked. Be it their writing style, layout, thoughts, opinions, whatever. There’s been a reason it hasn’t tickled my fancy, but do I troll them? Leave hate? Call them out on Twitter because I don’t agree with them?
I click that little red X (or red dot it you’re on a Mac) and I leave.
Should that blogger suddenly have to go back on everything they have said because little ol’ I didn’t agree with them? They’ve lost that single returning visitor because of their opinion. Oh no! Sound the alarm bells.
Oh, give me strength.
Our blogs are our places on the internet to share. I accept the fact not everyone will read my blog, and those that do might not even like it very much. Hell, if you’re reading this now your might be shaking your head thinking, did she write this drunk? The answer is no, and if you don’t like it? See the information above.
Some people’s Instagram accounts might look all pink, frosted, full of sweetness and light. They might spread rainbows and unicorns on Twitter. I might not know these people, but I’m pretty sure their offline lives don’t come with a dollop of extra sweet buttercream on a daily basis. But why should they be forced to share the sour moments in their life just to prove something?
Your blog is your space. Do with it what you will. The same goes for all your social media accounts. You have nothing to prove and no-one to please other than yourself. If you don’t like what someone else is doing let them be. You think they’re too happy, too positive, too perky all of the time, let them be. They’re not hurting you, or harming you in any way. Maybe they don’t feel like sharing all the skeletons in their closet, chances are you probably don’t either.
Until next time,