Monday, 30 November 2015

Sometimes we fail...

what to do when you fail


Do you ever feel sometimes like you just fail at everything you set out to do? I have a theory that I am cursed. I have no idea what sea-witch I have screwed over but I’ve been cursed none the less. Whenever I set myself a goal, it seems like life decides to throw every possible curve ball it can my way to stop me from reaching said goal.

Take November for instance. The month that was my most epic NaNoWriMo fail of my life. I didn’t just miss the 50,000-word goal by a hairline, nope. The gap between my word count and the 50k was so big you’d need to hop on a plane to get to the other end. I watched as all those ‘I won NaNo 2015’ badges and tweets started to come out, so I booted up the document in hope, it would spur me on, maybe there would be some finger tapping typing miracle. 

If you haven’t realised by now, there was no miracle.

And I’m ok with it.

Ok, so I’m not totally ok with it, I’m miffed at myself but one thing it has taught me, is that I really need to sort something out somewhere. I realise now that my time management outside of work isn’t great. That I procrastinate more than is considered healthy and I spend a lot of time doing things that aren’t really enriching my life in any way. I spend too much time perusing social media, and I put writing blog posts above throwing a load of washing in.

Priorities. Sometimes you can’t see the order they need to be in until you totally fail at something because they’re so out of wack. I see it now, I see that I might have a few of them the wrong way around.

Someone told me the other week, ‘the blog will die before you do’. And it took me a while to figure out how maliciously they meant this - they didn’t. What they were trying to tell me was, what’s important to be remembered for? A kick ass moisturiser review with editorial Esq pictures, or this god forsaken book I keep telling myself I will sit down and write?

Chances are the book will be pants, but some pairs of pants are more memorable than others. 

This isn’t me taking a step down from blogging, maybe not even a step back. But it is me saying that there are a few things more important than the blog and it’s only in failing NaNoWriMo 2015 that I’ve come to realise this. I love my blog, I love this little space I have and the opportunities it has brought me, and more importantly the people I have met thanks to blogging. I wouldn’t change it for the world.

I failed. I learnt a lesson. Next time, let’s assume things will be different.

What lessons has failure taught you?

Until next time,






18 comments:

  1. These are interesting thoughts. I can definitely relate about questioning the legacy we leave. It's good to mix it up. :]

    // ▲ itsCarmen.com ▲

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    1. It's all about balance, I just need to find it haha!

      Sarah :)

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  2. If there was an award for procrastination i'm sure we'd all be in the running to receive it! it's so difficult not to with online shopping and social media (that's were my procrastination lies). And remember everyone needs pants...it would be awkward if we didn't have them ahaha! xx

    Aimee | AimeeSueXO

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    1. Haha that is very very true! Pants are kind of important!

      Sarah :)

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  3. Ah you're a girl after my own heart! Having a novel published was my dream too. I say was, it maybe still is, but I think I was too single minded before and I needed to learn - through failure! - that I could pursue other dreams that were just as worthwhile as that one. That's how I found blogging! Now I realise that all these failures and detours are all just part of the process. Seems like we both learned a lesson through failure! Best of luck with your book! x

    Kate Louise Blogs

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    1. Thank you! You too! I'm sure we will get it done eventually haha, along with everything else!

      Sarah :)

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  4. Well.... I signed up for Blog Everyday in November and I didn't blog everyday, I missed 2 days. It's a good thing for me too, as I'm pushing myself when it comes to a challenge. If we learn from our mistakes or failures is better we've tried in the first place.

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    1. Yes! I think it's always better to have tried than to never have tried at all, even in failure we have something to show for our efforts, even if it isn't what was planned for!

      Sarah :)

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  5. I failed a lot. You can still blog. But you should manage your time more. This app helped me. "Carrot to do"
    Lush Life | Styleccentric Fashion'

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    1. I do need to try and manage my time better, I'll be sure to check out the app!

      Sarah :)

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  6. I hear ya girl. It's hard when we put so much pressure on ourselves and I really do struggle with time management - people seem to be under the impression that I've got it all together but there are just sometimes when I get nothing done.

    Corinne x

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    1. I guess I have to admit that we all can't be superwoman all of the time, sometimes things just don't happen, I'm fed up of beating myself up about it!

      Sarah :)

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  7. I love the honesty in this post. One thing i've learned throughout life was that WE ourselves define failure, and to "fail" is totally made up by you. Sometimes life stinks and bad things happen, but to brush yourself off, learn from your mistakes and you WILL be a stronger person as a result! I don't think you should give up your blog if you love doing it. People say hurtful things, but not because of YOU- they say them because of their insecurities. Don't waste your time trying to decode the thing that other people say but instead keep moving on and up :)

    -Rachel
    www.blonderhombus.com

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    1. Thanks so much! Everything you have said is spot on and I'll be repeating this all to myself until it sinks in. I never thought about the definition of failure, you're right, we do define the terms and how I fail is all down to me, not to some dictionary definition.

      Thanks so much for the encouragement :)

      Sarah :)

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  8. Gosh, I fail all the time. At practically everything. Seems to be the only way I learn! Such is life I guess. I'm just glad I find the opportunities for growth!

    Love,

    Julie @ http://www.xfallenmoon.com

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    1. So true! We really do have to learn from whatever it is we have failed at, there's no point making the same mistake twice!

      Sarah :)

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  9. Yeah that quote is about right. Unless blogging is your job or your career aim then there is no logical reason for it to be top of the pile, other things are more important. However there is a certain enjoyment to be got from blogging in which case you should indulge in it however you wish. I guess if you enjoy it, then it is a hobby and thus should be treated as much. Other hobbies wouldn't see one spending every evening of every day consumed by the hobby would they. Other hobbies have their time and place and I guess we should apply that to blogging to. It's just difficult when this particular hobby is so easily accessible! xx

    Amy at Amy & More

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    1. Blogging has brought me so much and I am reluctant to let go of that, the difference in who I am not compared with just a few years ago, the confidence I have and the things I do differently, and of course, the people I now have in my life have made it all worthwhile and I wouldn't go back and change any of it!

      Sarah :)

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