It baffles me when people say they keep their blog a secret from friends and family. I get it, I get they might want the privacy, or they might be blogging about something they would rather not share with loved ones, but more often than not, when I ask bloggers why they keep their blog a secret, they say their embarrassed.
Embarrassed that friends and family won’t understand what it is they’re doing, that they will be laughed at, mocked, have the piss well and truly took out of them because they blog. And this really saddens me.
This is something I have talked about countless times before with one of my blogging besties, Corinne of SkinnedCarTree. You see, her blog is awesome, and she keeps it a secret from pretty much everyone she knows offline! Shes actually wrote about why she keeps her blog a secret, so go check it out.
I don’t keep my blog a secret. I never have. And here’s why;
I love talking about my blog. From discussing post ideas to recent events I’ve attended, further thoughts on a product I have reviewed or directing friends to my foodie reviews when they’re looking for a new place to try out. It’s all just an extension of our everyday conversation.
I’ve been lucky in that most of the people I know have been extremely supportive of my blog. Sure, some have questioned it, laughed at me for ‘being all teen angst emotional’ online (FYI those where my LiveJournal days and that content has long disappeared into the black hole of the internet!). More often than not, the people who do question it just want to know why.
What’s the point?
How much money do I make?
What could I possibly have to say that other people would want to read about?
Am I Bridget Jones?
For me, blogging isn’t a business, it’s a hobby. It’s a fulfilling pastime and a creative outlet. How is that any different to someone who likes to draw or paint? When someone tells me their hobby is golfing or model plane building, how is blogging any different? It’s time spent doing something I enjoy.
I love it when a friend comes to me and says, ‘I read about such and such a thing on your blog, do you think I should buy it/ try it/ go there?’. I love it when colleagues tell me they’ve been recommending my blog to their friends and I love how my parents practically hand out my URL to everyone they meet because even though they might not fully understand what it is I’m doing, they’re proud of me.
Being open about blogging does have it’s cons, I won’t lie. There are times I might want to talk about something and won’t because I know whose eyes are reading these words. There are times when my mum has phoned me up, questioning something she has read on my blog, and when good things happen, I have to be sure to tell the people in my offline life first before they find out about it through the blog. In my experience, keeping a secret blogging life is much harder than just telling people about it in the first place!
But when I’m struggling for ideas, unsure about how a post sounds or in need of photo taking assistance - I have people I can call on and count on. My Mr is full of ideas, so much so I think he should probably take over the blog, and my Mum is always on about going places with me so I can blog about it. My brother loves to get involved in posts, especially those that involve food, and my friends, the bloggers and the none bloggers give me so much positive feedback on what I’m doing in my little corner of the internet that it makes me smile.
For my birthday this year a close friend gifted me something. As I tore off the wrapping she stopped me and said, ‘I’ve been reading your blog and you’ve been doing so many food related posts, I thought these might come in handy’. When I tore away the wrapping she had given me a cook book stand and my own recipe book to start filling in. We then spent the rest of the evening discussing blogging and I even convinced her to write a little guest post for me - and she had never blogged before.
Blogging has become a huge part of my life and if I had to keep quiet about that, well, I don’t think I would last very long. I’ve done the anonymous thing, I’ve had secret blogs in the past and having to shut down a computer or hide a laptop every time someone walks in the room is tiresome. Being asked, ‘what are you doing?’ or ‘what are you writing?’ and having to lie just becomes more awkward to keep up with. Blogging is becoming more and more mainstream these days, more people know about it, are trying their hand at it, and it’s not some dodgy little thing to be caught doing online.
Blogging is something to be proud of.
Is your blog a secret or do you tell the strangers at the bus stop all about your Google page ranking?
Until next time,